Grafted Ministry Resources


Recommended Resource List for Adoptive and Foster Families

Books for Adults


20 Things Adoptive Parents Need to Succeed, by Sherrie Eldridge
A Treasury of Adoption Miracles, by Karen Kingsbury
Adoption is a Family Affair! – What Friends and Family Must Know, by Patricia Irwin Johnston
Before You Were Mine: Discovering Your Adopted Child’s Lifestory, Susan TeBos and Carissa Woodwyk
Breastfeeding the Adopted Baby, revised edition, by Debra Stewart Peterson
Carried Safely Home: The Spiritual Legacy of an Adoptive Family, Kristin Swick Wong
Kisses From Katie, by Katie Davie with Beth Clark
Love Me, Feed Me: The Adoptive Parent’s Guide to Ending the Worry About Weight, Picky Eating, Power Struggles and More, Katja Rowell, MD
Parenting is Your Highest Calling: And Eight Other Myths That Trap Us in Worry and Guilt (2008), by Leslie Fields
Raising Adopted Children, by Lois Ruskai Melina
Real Parents, Real Children, by Holly van Gulden and Lisa M. Bartels-Rabb
Secret Thoughts of an Adoptive Mom, by Jana Wolff
Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew, by Sherrie Eldridge
The Essential Adoption Handbook, Colleen Alexander Roberts
The Waiting Child: How the Faith and Love of One Orphan Saved the Life of Another, Cindy Champnella
The Whole Life Adoption Book, by Jane Schooler
There Is No Me Without You, Melissa Fay Greene

Attachment & Related:

Anatomy of the Soul, by Curt Thompson, MD
Attaching in Adoption, by Deborah Gray
Nurturing Adoptions: Creating Resilience After Neglect and Trauma, by Deborah Gray
Parenting from the Inside Out, by Daniel J. Siegel and Mary Hartzell
The Connected Child (2007), by Karyn Purvis, David Cross and Wendy Sunshine
The Whole Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind, Survive Everyday Parenting Struggles, and Help Your Family Thrive, by Daniel J. Seigel and Tina Payne Bryson
Toddler Adoption: The Weaver’s Craft, Mary Hopkins-Best
Wounded Children, Healing Homes: How Traumatized Children Impact Adoptive and Foster Families (2009), by Jayne E. Schooler, Betsy Keefer Smalley, Timothy J. Callahan

Open Adoption:

Dear Birthmother, Kathleen Silber & Phylis Speedlin
Life Givers: Framing the Birthparent Experience in Open Adoption, James Gritter
The Open Adoption Experience, Lois Ruskai Melina & Sharon Kaplan Roszia


Cross-Cultural Adoption: How to Answer Questions from Family, Friends and Community, Amy Coughlin & Caryn Abramowitz
I’m Chocolate, You’re Vanilla, by Marguerite Wright
In Their Own Voices: Transracial Adoptees Tell Their Stories, Rita J. Simon & Rhonda M. Roorda
Inside Transracial Adoption, by Gail Steinberg & Beth Hall

Sensory Processing:

The Out-Of-Sync Child (Revised Ed., 2006), by Carol Kranowitz
The Out-Of-Sync Child Has Fun: Activities for Kids with Sensory Processing Disorder (Revised Ed, 2006), by Carol Kranowitz
I Love You Rituals, by Becky Bailey

Talking with Children About Adoption/Foster Care:

Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or Foster Child, Betsy Keeler and Jayne E. Schooler


A Passion for the Fatherless, Daniel J. Bennett
Created to Connect: A Christian’s Guide to The Connected Child (2010), by Purvis, Monroe and Monroe
Fields of the Fatherless, by C.Thomas Davis
Secure in God’s Embrace, Living as the Father’s Adopted Child, by Ken Fong
The Spirit of Adoption: At Home in God’s Family, Jeanne Stevenson-Moessner
The Spirit of Adoption: Winning the Battle for the Children, Randy Bohlender

Children’s Books

A is for Adopted, Eileen Tucker Cosby
Families Are Forever, Craig Sheman
Families Change: A Book for Children Experiencing Termination of Parental Rights, Julie Nelson
Family Day: Celebrating Ethan’s Adoption Anniversary, Christine Mitchell
God Found Us You, Lisa Tawn Bergren
Maybe Days: A Book for Children in Foster Care, Jennifer Wilgocki
Mommy’s Heart Went POP!, Christina Kyllonen and Peter Greer
Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born, Jamie Lee Curtis
The Day We Met You, Phoebe Koehler
The Mulberry Bird (Revised Edition), Anne Brodzinsky
Welcome Home, Forever Child: A Celebration of Children Adopted as Toddlers, Christine Mitchell
We’re Different, We’re the Same, Bobbi Jane Kates
W.I.S.E. Up Powerbook (For Children Who Were Adopted), The Center for Adoption Support and Education ( (Comment: An excellent resource to help empower your kids to know and be able to answer (or not answer) questions about their family and their adoption. Highly recommended for all adoptive families with school-age children.)
W.I.S.E. Up Powerbook (For Children in Foster Care), The Center for Adoption Support and Education ( (Comment: Similar to the original W.I.S.E Up Powerbook for children who were adopted, this resource is a great way to help talk with and empower children in foster care to better understand, accept and handle their story.)


Baby, Baby, Oh Baby: Infant Massage DVD
Any of the DVDs offered by The Institute of Child Development at TCU: (Topics include: Trust-Based Parenting, Sensory Processing, Attachment & more)


Adoptive Families Magazine (
Adoption Today (
Fostering Families Today (


Grafted Ministry:
Empowered to Connect: (lots of great short video clips and other resource info by Dr. Karyn Purvis, all free)
The Institute of Child Development at TCU:
Tyler Forever Families:
Tapestry Ministry:
Abba Fund:
Lifesong for Orphans:
Hope for Orphans:
Show Hope:
Dave Thomas Foundation:
HANDinHAND Christian Adoption, Inc.:
Together for Adoption:


Disclaimer: We trust that these resources will be helpful to you, but obviously neither we nor Bethel Bible Church necessarily agree with or endorse every idea and opinion contained in them. We know that you will use your judgment and discernment as you read and consider these and any other adoption and foster care resources. In addition, we are always available to discuss any questions that you might have, so please feel free to contact Phillip or Shalene Grisham at